Healing Doesn’t Mean Ascending—It Means Remembering

Healing Doesn’t Mean Ascending—It Means Remembering

In a world obsessed with progress, it’s easy to believe that healing is about becoming someone else—someone calmer, wiser, more enlightened. But at Roots to Realms, we believe healing isn’t about climbing upward. It’s about coming home.

It’s about remembering the parts of you that were buried under survival, shame, or silence. The ones that still whisper, still ache, still wait.

The Psychology of Remembering

Therapeutic models like Parts Work and Internal Family Systems (IFS) suggest that we’re made up of many inner selves—some playful, some protective, some wounded. These parts aren’t flaws. They’re fragments of truth.

When we reconnect with these parts, we don’t regress—we reclaim. We begin to understand that healing is less about fixing and more about integration.

The Wisdom of Cycles

Nature doesn’t rush. Trees don’t apologize for shedding leaves. The moon doesn’t resist its phases. Your healing is cyclical too.

• You may revisit old wounds.

• You may feel like you’re “backsliding.”

• You may pause, rest, or rage.

None of it means you’re failing. It means you’re in rhythm.

Try This: “The Memory Stone” Exercise

Purpose: Reconnect with a forgotten or disowned part of yourself.

Instructions:

1. Find a small stone or natural object that feels grounding.

2. Hold it in your hand and close your eyes.

3. Ask: What part of me has been quiet lately? What part of me wants to be remembered?

4. Let a memory, image, or feeling arise—don’t force it.

5. Speak aloud or journal: I remember you. You belong here.

6. Keep the stone somewhere visible as a reminder that healing is a return, not a departure.

Final Thoughts

You don’t need to transcend your humanity to heal. You need to remember it.

At Roots to Realms, we honor the messy, magical process of coming back to yourself—one breath, one memory, one moment at a time.